Love Style Test — Which of the 6 Love Styles Are You? (Free)

How do you love? Find your love style among sociologist John Lee's six styles (eros, ludus, storge, pragma, mania, agape) with 24 free questions in about 4 minutes, and get the strengths and relationship tips for your style.

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What's included

Questions: 24 items
Time: ~4 min
Price: Free
Dimensions: 6

What are the six styles of love?

In his 1973 book Colours of Love, Canadian sociologist John Alan Lee compared the ways people love to a colour wheel. The three primary styles are passionate eros, playful ludus and friendship-based storge. Blends of these give practical pragma, intense mania and devoted agape.

Research took off after psychologists Clyde and Susan Hendrick (1986) built the Love Attitudes Scale to measure the six styles. Studies have reported that higher eros and agape go with greater relationship satisfaction, while mania tends to go with anxious attachment and ludus with avoidant attachment (Levy & Davis, 1988).

How this test builds your result

Soundary's love style test has 24 original items written around John Lee's six styles, four per style. The items are interleaved so the styles are mixed. You see a 0–100 score for each style, and your highest style is shown as your main type.

Most people are not just one style but a blend of two or three. Styles can also shift with age, the stage of a relationship and who you're with. Read the shape of all six bars, not just the main type.

Using your result in relationships

Share your results with a partner or friend. Knowing what each of you takes as a sign of love reduces misunderstandings. For a storge lover, a comfortable routine may be proof of love; for an eros lover, it may be words and gestures that spark excitement.

This test is a guide to understanding personality and relationships and does not judge whether a relationship is good or bad. If jealousy or anxiety turns into controlling a partner, or if there is violence in a relationship, please reach out to a professional or support service.

How it works

Answer each item on a 5-point scale from 'strongly disagree' to 'strongly agree'. There are no right answers — going with your first instinct gives a result closer to your actual tendencies. When you finish you'll get dimension scores, your headline type, and an interpretation with practical advice.

Sample questions

1. When I meet someone I like, I tend to feel a strong pull toward them very quickly.
2. Relationships are best when they stay light and fun rather than heavy.
3. Starting as friends and gradually becoming a couple suits me best.
4. Before starting a relationship, I consider whether our values, lifestyles and future plans fit.

FAQ

Is this the same as the Hendricks' Love Attitudes Scale (LAS)?

No. The items of the Love Attitudes Scale are a published copyrighted work, so we did not reuse them. Soundary wrote new items based on John Lee's six styles. Your scores therefore can't be compared directly with the original scale's norms; use them as a guide to understanding how you love.

Can I take it if I'm not in a relationship?

Yes. Answer with past relationships or the kind of love you hope for in mind. If you haven't dated, think about what you would likely do if you fell for someone.

Is it a problem if I get Mania (the intense lover)?

No. Mania simply describes loving with deep absorption and big emotional swings. Research does link it with anxious attachment, so if anxiety unsettles your daily life, try the attachment style test as well. If jealousy turns into checking on or controlling a partner, it is worth talking to a professional.

If my partner and I get different results, are we a bad match?

Not at all. Different styles mean different ways of feeling and showing love. Look at each other's results and talk about what each of you takes as a sign of love. Taking the affection style test together can make the conversation easier.

Source

Lee, J. A. (1973). Colours of Love: An Exploration of the Ways of Loving. Toronto: New Press. · Hendrick, C., & Hendrick, S. (1986). A theory and method of love. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 50(2), 392–402. · Hendrick, C., Hendrick, S. S., & Dicke, A. (1998). The Love Attitudes Scale: Short form. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 15(2), 147–159. · Levy, M. B., & Davis, K. E. (1988). Lovestyles and attachment styles compared: Their relations to each other and to various relationship characteristics. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 5(4), 439–471. · Aron, A., Norman, C. C., Aron, E. N., McKenna, C., & Heyman, R. E. (2000). Couples' shared participation in novel and arousing activities and experienced relationship quality. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 78(2), 273–284. This test uses items written by Soundary based on published theoretical models and academic literature. It is not any commercial instrument or a translation of one.

Personality results describe current tendencies, not fixed labels. They can change when you retake the test later.