SoundaryAttachment Style Test — Free Anxiety & Avoidance Quiz
Measure how you relate in close relationships along two axes — attachment anxiety and avoidance. About 4 minutes, and you get your position among secure, anxious, avoidant, or fearful styles with a plain-language reading of your relationship patterns.
What's included
- Questions
- 24 items
- Time
- ~4 min
- Price
- Free
- Dimensions
- 2
How it works
Answer each item on a 5-point scale from 'strongly disagree' to 'strongly agree'. There are no right answers — going with your first instinct gives a result closer to your actual tendencies. When you finish you'll get dimension scores, your headline type, and an interpretation with practical advice.
Sample questions
- 1. I often worry that someone close doesn't love me.
- 2. I often want to check how the other person feels.
- 3. When a reply is late, my heart grows heavy.
- 4. Even a little distance from the other fills me with fear that they'll soon leave.
FAQ
How are attachment styles categorized?
Modern research treats attachment as two continuous dimensions rather than boxes: attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance. Low on both is secure; high anxiety only is anxious-preoccupied; high avoidance only is dismissing-avoidant; high on both leans fearful-avoidant.
What do anxious and avoidant attachment actually mean?
High anxiety means you're sensitive to signs of rejection and want frequent reassurance and contact. High avoidance means closeness feels uncomfortable, so you share less and handle things alone. Neither is good or bad — they're different strategies for managing intimacy.
Can your attachment style change over time?
Yes. Attachment is less a fixed trait than a habit built from relationship experience, and studies repeatedly show scores shifting after stable partnerships, close friendships, or therapy. Retaking the test every few months is a good way to see the movement.
If I score anxious or avoidant, should I see a counselor?
This is a self-check, not a diagnosis. A style by itself isn't a problem, but if conflict or breakups keep disrupting your sleep, mood, or daily life, counseling helps. Bringing your result sheet along makes it easier to start the conversation.
Source
Brennan, K. A., Clark, C. L., & Shaver, P. R. (1998). Self-report measurement of adult romantic attachment: An integrative overview. / Fraley, R. C., Waller, N. G., & Brennan, K. A. (2000). Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 78(2), 350–365. / Bartholomew, K., & Horowitz, L. M. (1991). Four-category model of adult attachment. — This test uses items developed by Soundary itself on the two-dimensional 'attachment anxiety × attachment avoidance' model established by Brennan, Fraley and colleagues; it is not a translation of ECR-R or any other existing instrument. This test uses items written by Soundary based on published theoretical models and academic literature. It is not any commercial instrument or a translation of one.
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